Hey guys. I’m back, and I owe you guys a huge apology! We were on vacation last week and I forgot to let you all know there wouldn’t be a post that week. I thought I would have time to write an article but obviously I did not. Now that I am back I wanted to do a quick dive into my last article “An Open Letter to the Dad That Wasn’t There“. If you haven’t had a chance to read it, I would pause what you’re doing and go check it out so you understand what the context of this post.
Before I jump right in, I’d like to say thank you to all the wonderful people who have reached out to me with kind words and open hearts. You make this world a beautiful place.
As you read last week I wrote an open letter to my biological father, and if you still didn’t click the link and go read it, I have linked it again here so you are able to. I’m serious, go.
So starting off I wanted to say in no way was I trying to look for attention or pitty in the writing of the last article, and I definitely wasn’t trying to get anyone in hot water (I wouldn’t be torn up if that happened though). My main goal writing that article was to reach the people who dread every father’s day. The people who avoid social media on that dad so they don’t have to see all the wonderful fathers in the world and wonder why they were unable to have that. I wanted to reach the people who absolutely hate the day, and I wanted to remind them that they are not alone.
Since day one I have always said that I am a personal blogger on a mission to make sure you know you are not alone, and that was the main goal in writing it. I wasn’t looking for any attention. I wasn’t looking for pitty. I definitely wasn’t looking to get him in trouble either and actually, unless you are related to me there is a good chance you have no clue who my biological father is. Unfortunately, I realize the pain that a lot of people have on days like “Father’s Day” because I have that pain. I wish I had the dad I deserved but because I didn’t, all that day brings me is the memories I wish I could forget.
If my letter struck a chord with you then I’m glad I could help you, because you know you aren’t alone in your pain anymore. If you read it and realized for the first time that this pain exists then my job is done. Awareness is the key and I will no longer keep silent and hide someone else’s dirty laundry because it makes everyone else more comfortable.
If I helped you even a little let me know. If you think my last article could help someone you know, share it with your community. Together is how we become stronger.
Lastly I thought I would address some questions I have gotten towards my letter….
Yes, everything I wrote about actually happened to me. I made 0% of it up, but I wish it was all fake.
No, I have had no contact with him since I was 11. That’s going on 14 years now.
I do refer to my step dad sometimes as my dad, but only because I grew up calling him that.
Yes, I have a different dad then my sisters.
I hope this post helped you understand the reasoning into the letter and if you have any other questions feel free to reach out. I truly believe it’s pointless to hide your past from people. It hinders you in more ways than you know, and because of that thinking I’m pretty much an open book about everything.