This date night was planned by me. I want to specify that, incase we have different styles to our dates.
So here is where I put in my disclaimer. I want to be as respectful as possible to people who are trying to wait until they’re married to have sex because I truly admire you. If you aren’t married, I would just recommend skipping the section about Truth or Dare. This article as a whole is pretty mild but I want to throw that out there. Happy reading!
Since this is my first Date Night article, I figured there was no better way to start out than with our Valentine’s Date. Now, like I said before most of the dates you’ll find on my site are going to be at home dates, and this one is no exception. I will say going into the planning of this date I knew I needed to make this special. I mean it’s Valentine’s Day you guys, and you just know that everyone under the sun was going to be talking about what they did for V-Day and how great and fun it was all week, even if none of that was actually true for them.
Please excuse me while I play into this over marketed, hyped up holiday for a minute while simultaneously feeding into a very vain and envious side of me. This admittedly isn’t the best look for anyone, but hey, at least I’m being honest, right? Anywho, I didn’t want to feel like I was missing out on the hype because we decided not to go out. I wanted to feel just as special and fancy as anyone else celebrating that day. Okay I said it, now moving on.
We started with exchanging gifts in the morning before Jordan headed to work.
Fast forward to after we put Juniper to sleep, Jordan cooked our favorite meal of steak and stuffed mushrooms. Usually we don’t include dinner in our dates but, hey, it’s V-Day, and I want it to be special, gosh dang it!
Once we were done eating, our activities began. Starting out I knew I really wanted this night to be romantically charged but also fun. Let’s just take a quick pause here, shall we? I want to clarify something. When I say romantically charged I do not mean sexually charged. They are two completely different things, so please get your mind out of the gutter.
I wanted to pull our feelings for each other to the forefront of our brains and remind ourselves what we working on and why we’re working on it. So we began with writing love letters to each other.
Here is where I break and give you…
Tip #1: Do not tell your partner you are doing this activity.
If you ever get a chance to get to know my husband, which I hope you do ’cause he’s freaking awesome, you will find that he is a very pragmatic thinker. If I would have told him this was one of the activities we were doing he would have researched some of the best lines he could use, wrote it all out, proofread it, then rewrote the ENTIRE letter again before hand, and come to date night already finished with this activity, kinda not exaggerating either. That is just the way he’s wired, and that’s fine. I knew that would make me upset, though, so I didn’t give him any warning. I wanted him to spontaneously tell me how he felt, because I wanted to know it came from his heart not from Google. I also realize that being put on the spot like that can be overwhelming and make your brain freeze up as well sometimes, and I knew I didn’t want that to happen either. I looked for something that would maybe help the both of us keep the ideas flowing while writing, and I actually found this really cute Love Letter Prompt picture from gracelovelife.com. This really helped both of us make most of the time we were given.
Speaking about time….
Tip #2: Put a time limit on your writing.
The reason I did this wasn’t anything more than I didn’t want us to spend too much time on this activity. I mean I had a whole night of fun planned! As I think about it now though, I believe that some of our best work comes when we are under pressure, so in the long run it probably worked out for the best.
I decided on a time limit of thirty minutes. I figured this would give us enough time to write a decent letter but not so much time that we were going to over analyze everything we were writing.
I’m not kidding you, the results were amazing. The letter he wrote me is the sweetest thing I’ve ever read, spelling mistakes and all. It’s definitely something I will cherish all the days of my life. Ten out of ten would recommend doing this with your significant other.
Now all of our emotions are at the forefront of our brains, so we move on to our next activity of the night. Youtube Dance Lessons. I have linked the specific video we used if you want to use the same one we did.
So going into dancing I was super excited. I have always wanted to learn how to do some kind of dance, and in my head I imagined us eloquently gliding across our living room floors all night as our hearts and our feeling soared to new heights. (This is where I admit I might be a romantic at heart…) I specifically thought the Waltz was probably going to be the easiest dance to learn allowing us to focus on each other and how we were feeling in that moment.
I cannot express how wrong I was. I was so incredibly wrong. The basic idea and moves were easy to understand, you know, until we had to combine what I was doing with what he was doing. You’re probably rolling your eyes right now, aren’t you? That’s okay, because I totally realize that this dance is probably super easy! It may have be way easier for us if either of us had any coordination or dance background whatsoever, but we don’t. So at this point we are a flaming hot mess. We are fumbling. We are crashing. He’s leading. Now I’m leading. Wait, what’s your foot doing? No, that’s the wrong foot. Then BOOM, “AAAHH,” BANG. After all of the work of trying and trying and trying our hardest to do the flippin’ dance smoothly, we ultimately ended up tripping on the couch and fell.
That brings me to….
Tip #3: Make sure you have enough room, even if that means you have to move some furniture.
So while I really wanted a romantic ballroom dance with my sweetheart, I ended up getting one heck of a hot mess laying on the floor. As laughing on the floor with each other after just tripping on our couch, I decided that we just aren’t fancy ballroom dancing kind of people, and I’m okay with that. I am super happy we were able to find joy in the midst of struggle (even if it was a tiny one).
That brings us to the last activity…
Spicy Truth or Dare
I already know I’m getting so many judgmental looks right now, and I definitely know what you must me thinking. “Is she kidding? Spicy Truth or Dare? What are you talking about? Is that what I think it is?” You know what, Karen? Yes it is, it’s exactly what you think, because I’m an adult and I don’t need your approval. I am devoted to being 100% real with you 100% of the time, even if it does make me a little uncomfortable at times.
Before I get into the interesting parts, let’s talk about how I set up this Truth or Dare game. When you think of Truth or Dare I bet most of you flash back to some teenage right of passage moment when you and a bunch of your peers gathered around and took turns asking the famous question. “Truth or Dare?” and I bet the game started okay but ended up in just a game of “Truth” because everyone was just too scared of what these hormonal teenage beasts would dare you to do? No? Just me? Well, okay then, this is awkward.
If that wasn’t your experience than I’m glad but for the rest of us who did experience this, it was terrible and so SO lame. While planning this little game, it was always in the back of my head that I did not want it to end up like that. To accomplish that, there had to be no pressure to think on our feet, and there had to be no fear of the other person being especially cruel.
I was thinking on it for a bit and finally figured the best way to combatted those obstacles was to write down one truth and one dare on to a small piece of paper and fold it up into a bowl. When we got to the game we picked a paper out of the bowl, gave it to the other person so they could read the option that was decided on.
If you couldn’t tell by now, I’m a planner at heart, I really am, and when I need to do get something done, my go to is either Google or Pinterest, depending on what is needed. This time though, I called out to Pinterest, and boy did she answer. Honestly I can’t link any one article or website I used because I took different ideas from several different places and, all I searched for was “Truth or Dare for Couples”. What popped up was kind of a mix of different pages, links, and articles. The one thing they all had in common, though, was heat. I’m talking about the love kind of heat but, in the end I knew our comfort level. I knew how well certain things would play out, so I tried to pick things that were fun and, also ones I thought we would get into.
Actual example we used: “Truth- What would you like to try in the bedroom?” vs. “Dare- Feed me something as seductively as possible.”
Tip #4: Put yourself out there and really commit!
This game is obviously only as fun as you make it so, if you take yourself too seriously, you’re going to miss out on a ton of fun! Don’t be afraid to pick some dare’s. Once you do so, really commit to what you drew. That is KEY. Your partner can tell when you aren’t giving it your all and it can leave them sorta bummed. In the end you both will have a way better time if you both commit to whatever you drew, trust me. Give it your all you guys! You and your significant other might actually find some fun things you can add to your everyday routine… If you know what I mean… Remember, in the uncomfortable is where we grow the most.
Do you have to give your partner a belly dance? No, you GET to give your partner a belly dance, so you better make sure it’s the best belly dance he’s ever seen. Who cares if you feel silly? You are making memories together, enjoy them!
Tip #4: Do not read the option they didn’t pick to them.
I only say this because we ended up having so much fun with it that we played it twice all the way through and it still felt like a brand new game since half of the options hadn’t been used yet. It was also fun to see Jordan do some things that I had to do too.
That concluded our Valentine’s Day date night, and in the end I think we had way more fun staying in then we ever would have had going out. What do you think? What did you do for Valentines Day? Tell me in the comments, I love reading them! No matter what you did I hope you took time to appreciate the person you do life with.
I hope that through my words, you receive encouragement and that you discover you are not alone in this mess we call adulthood. I’m rooting for you.
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